“A man’s heart is a wretched wretched thing. it isn’t like a mother’s womb. It won’t bleed. It won’t stretch to make room for you” ~Khaled Hosseini
Before I get to it, I’d like you to keep one thing in mind. Yourself. When all is said and done..everything still comes down to you. What you did, who you loved, how you felt, what you wish you would have done differently, what you wanted so bad, and what becomes of you when all you are is nothing but a memory.
Now think about those people who keep you grounded when everything around you seems to be shifting. The people who allow you to be yourself without an ounce of judgement..Those who ignite a spark in your heart when they wander through your thoughts..The people who feel like home.. People you love.
Imagine your life without them(And I’d like you to think in the lines of friendship) By now you’ve probably lost a friend you didn’t think you would, and it’s definitely not fair, all things considered..But you can’t get far in life expecting people to be fair.
So let’s talk about how we handle fallouts. These are bound to happen given our human nature, our different opinions, different aspirations and lifestyles. We don’t normally recruit friends based on such, you either click or you don’t and there’s definitely a story behind every friendship..but what happens when this factors become an issue?
Do you choose yourself or does it become another classic story of loyalty to a fault? Here’s my take. Weigh the importance of that certain person in your life and how different things would be if you didn’t have them anymore. If they’re more good than bad. You will definitely not always agree but as long as someone else’s way of life doesn’t affect who you are as a person you shouldn’t just let them go.
You let them go when they don’t improve your life, when they try to tell you who you are, when there is no reciprocation or accountability because love is just not enough. Don’t forget that you too can be this person to someone else and you should be able to understand that you can be the person people outgrow and they shouldn’t have to feel bad for doing so.
Your wound might not be your fault but healing is definitely your responsibility. Nobody else knows how deep your scar goes. Other times we need to face the storm to feel the depth of our roots. The hurt teaches you. And you don’t always get it right the first time. But we live we learn and we grow.
Understand that not everyone will do what you would have done in a given situation. Not everyone has your heart. And you don’t have to hate them because they are all part of your journey. Love them for who they are and who they’re not. Take the lesson and go.
And even though you are bound to lose at some point, I hope you are safe. I hope you are loved beyond measure. I hope you have the courage to love. I hope you are fed and watered. I hope this journey feels like it’s yours. I hope you choose yourself over and over. I hope you are living your life.
I’ll tell you about “The other girl” and why I even decided to blog next time.
XOXO!!
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